Since sharing that I’ve left the Mormon church – I’ve realized what number of of you’re in comparable conditions. For me, one of many scariest ideas was what to do with the after life beliefs I had beforehand held.. And I wished to share a few of my ideas from the final yr or so with you in case it occurs to assist anybody or spark any new concepts for your self. This can be a very weak subject and one which in actuality, nobody is “proper” about as a result of none of us really know for certain. We will all maintain beliefs and place confidence in these however none of us can inform the opposite they’re flawed, solely that they don’t share the identical perception.
As a whole lot of you already know, the mormon church believes that households will be collectively eternally. I might say it is without doubt one of the essential pillars of the church is this concept of everlasting households. And whenever you depart mormonism you do kind go, holy crap wait is it true or not? I believe what we imagine ought to actually simply be what brings us probably the most peace whereas on earth. Not in an insensitive manner, however in a really literal manner, none of us will care if what we believed wasn’t true as soon as we’re useless, as a result of… we shall be useless. So we simply have to have peace and luxury right here and now. I completely see how the concept of everlasting households is a unbelievable perception that may convey a lot peace to those that have suffered loss. I really suppose it’s a very wholesome perception to hold with you so long as folks don’t lean on it as a crutch when being there for others grieving (not permitting them to correctly grieve as a result of you’ll “see them once more” so why are you continue to so unhappy kind of factor)
I additionally actually don’t imagine that you simply even have to essentially be non secular to be able to imagine that you will notice family members once more in a heaven or in one other universe or no matter .. I believe that’s as believable as us ending up right here within the first place is. So I at the beginning don’t suppose that perception must be thrown out when leaving faith if that perception nonetheless holds worth for you. There aren’t any guidelines with regards to these items, you are able to do it nonetheless you need.
I used to suppose it was unhappy when folks didn’t imagine in afterlife – I now don’t suppose it’s unhappy in any respect, I believe it’s a really realist and sensible outlook and for some the consolation blanket of afterlife isn’t vital. I believe for me I’ve to cling onto one thing as a result of I believe if I ever misplaced a toddler or David I don’t suppose I might survive with out that thought.. whether or not or not it’s we bounce to a different universe and proceed on with life however with a brand new storyline or we reincarnate or we’re up in heaven having a elaborate lil social gathering.
Rosie lately introduced up reincarnation and talked about how she actually likes that concept. And was increasing on the place she would ideally wish to go .. however she stated any animal or human simply not a chook 🙂 and I informed her I believe when you have that request the universe could make that occur! I believe there are a whole lot of completely different choices for afterlife and no matter makes somebody really feel peaceable, superb. The primary factor for me when instructing my youngsters is simply to show them that nobody is “flawed” .. we will all be open minded to different’s concepts and so long as they aren’t harming others we will respect these beliefs and share ours as nicely. Our beliefs can even shift and alter – as we hearken to others we’d hear one thing we actually love that we wish to convey into our personal perception system. Actually, nothing is everlasting.
As a whole lot of , David’s brother handed away about 6 years in the past, after which shortly after his dad handed. After which only recently his mother. Now we have additionally had each of my grandpa’s die within the final decade or so. Now we have been lucky to be left with a whole lot of actually particular issues of theirs. I’ve so lots of my grandpa’s work and I maintain them on show within the residence and likewise in a room upstairs the place I paint now. I do know this would possibly sound cooky however I’m 100% satisfied that the work maintain vitality that I merely can not clarify in any manner aside from to say I completely really feel it and really feel like I’ve weirdly gotten to know him extra or really feel near him via the work. I even have felt his vitality pushing me creatively the previous yr.. It has felt so palpable for me that it actually received me excited about vitality generally. We all know that vitality can’t be destroyed.. And we all know that we will *really feel* vitality each good and dangerous and every little thing in between. We all know it’s there. I began to actually love the concept that once we die we depart behind all of our vitality. Particularly in issues like artwork or something we put vitality into (journals, prepare dinner books that had been used, clothes, and so forth).. Possibly for this reason artwork has such worth to sure folks and to not others. Possibly we do have artwork/aesthetic preferences in fact however perhaps we additionally love the vitality that comes with it.
I actually imagine that we not solely depart behind vitality however that individuals can select to just accept the vitality or not. For instance once we really feel dangerous vitality that doesn’t imply it robotically begins seeping into us.. We both let it are available in or not. So I began like a yr in the past actively attempting to “settle for” the vitality left behind by our family members who’ve left. Qualities about them that I actually beloved and the fervour they’d for the issues we now have in our properties and hoping to let a few of that keenness enter my realm. It’d sound foolish however I really feel like I’ve began to have deeper relationships with them even after they’re gone – like I’m able to get to know them. Which for me has been actually beautiful as a result of when David and I received married, his mother and pa had been on their mission in Costa Rica. Then after they received again, we had been residing in NYC and so they weren’t residence for lengthy earlier than leaving on a second mission to Patagonia. In Patagonia is the place David’s dad discovered he had a mind tumor, which he died from shortly after coming residence. I at all times really feel so emotional that I by no means received to get to know him extra, as a result of he really simply appears so exceptional and so cool. Being open to this concept of accepting his vitality – the vitality he left behind in his movie digicam that david now makes use of, the rocks he discovered whereas touring the world as a geologist, the books he learn, the images he took. He was so inventive and adventurous and free spirited and I really like with the ability to soak all that up. And David’s mother was sooooo angelic and sort and affected person and inventive and such a terrific painter. I hope to get a few of her portray provides so I can use these and once more hopefully have a few of her loveliness rub off on me. Ehren David’s brother was at all times thrifting and being inventive and was so enthusiastic – he beloved an excellent thrifted discover and I’ve completely accepted all of his treasure searching vitality and love to have a look at the items he gave us that we have now on show in our residence… together with so many different issues from every particular person. So many superb qualities we will tackle from our family members who’ve left us it’s so particular.
This has additionally made me understand the significance of simply placing vitality into issues that may be left behind for our family members. How superb to have vitality stuffed objects that they’ll then settle for all of our fantastic qualities and use them all through their lives.
Anyway, I really feel like that is ending considerably abruptly however these are simply my “work in progress” ideas in the meanwhile. I might love to listen to yours as nicely so be at liberty to share within the feedback and please be respectful to all! Xoxoxoxo
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